第1章 Praise for Power and Love

    "Adam'sSolvingToughProblemshelpedmeuandthatallofourpressingproblems-betheystrategicissuesinsideapanyorsocietalchallengeslikeflict,poverty,orclimatege-requirethatthosewithastakeandthepowertoaetogetherinopendialoguetocreateajointdiagnosisandadeepitmenttomovingfether.InPowerandLove,Adamgoesfurtheranddeeper,intothekindofleadershipthatittakestodothis."

    -RaviVenkatesan,Chairman,MicrosoftIndia

    "Itisher-or;it'sboth-and.Inthisdeceptivelybriefandclearlywrittenbook,AdamKahaakesusthroughhisownlearningprocesstoawayofaginandontheworldthatisbotheffectiveandg.Intelligent,insightful,satisfying-andinspiring."

    -MaryCatherieson,authorofposingaLifeandWillingtoLearn

    "Kahaneisamasterpractitionerandthinkerwhoknowsthehighsandlowsofsolvingsomeofthetoughestproblemsofsocialdiscord.PowerandLoveisbothinstructiveandinspiring."

    -PatrickDodson,wiheSydneyPeacePrizeandFoundingChairman,cilforAbinalReciliation

    "Thisbookisamust-readforbusinessleaderswhoareingttotihrive,businessmustjoinforceswithigroups,unities,andgoveroaddressthewickedsustainabilitychallengesofourtime.Kahaneshowsushow."

    -DianeOsgood,VicePresident,BusinessforSocialResponsibility

    "TheicalsideofmesaysthatAdamKahaneisuhatit'shispersonalityandpreseeoovereflidcreatestructiveresolutionstostalematesinbusinessandsociety.Butthehopefulsidesaysthatyesheisspecialbutthathisideas-whichheexpinssoablyinPowerandLove-beusedbyothers.Hewritesnotfromtheorybutfromexperienddrawsoutthelessonsfromalifetimeoffstructiveetodealwiththetoughestchallenges."

    -EstherDyson,founder,EDventureHoldings

    "Thisisasuperbbook:wiseandthoughtful."

    -W.BrianArthur,ExternalProfessor,Saitute,andauthorofTheNatureofTeology

    "Ifwearetomoveforwardonthemanychallengeshumanityfaces,onlythroughasymbiosisofpowerandloveweehesocialgewehatbothunifiesandissuffitlycreative.Thisbooklimpseofraxisofcreativecollectiveaightlooklike."

    -GedDavis,formerManagingDirector,WorldEi,andformerVicePresident,RoyalDutchShell

    "Regextremesisthechallengeofourtime.Sharinginsightsbornfrireheworld'stoughestsocialproblems,AdamKahanecallsfortheextraordinarymeasureofembragthewholenessofourpowerandourlove:thehardandsoftinusall.Byilluminatingthis'unonway,'Kahane'smessagejoireamoftheworld'smostprofoundandenduringstrategicviews."

    -JamesGimian,publisher,ShambhaSun,andcoauthorofTheRulesofVictory

    "MahatmaGandhi'slifewastheunfoldingofthedeeptruthoftheogeoneselfifostogetheworld.HencehisautobiographywastitledMyExperimentswithTruth.Adam'sstoryofhiseswithpeopleinmanytries,whomhewascalledtohelpintheireffortstogetheirworlds,isanatofhisownrealizationofGandhi'sinsight.Aaifullytoldstory."

    -ArunMaira,member,PnningissionoftheGoverofIndia

    "Inthisevocativeaifullywrittennarrative,AdamKahaneshareshisownjouroerandmorelife-affirminguandingoftheretionshipbetweenloveandpower-bothinourselvesandiemsith.Hisreal-lifestoriesandthelessonstheyrevearepellingforallofusithplexissuesinvolvingmultiplestakeholders."

    -JuanitaBrown,cofouheWorldCafé

    "Thisisaceousbook.Toofewofuswhofrequentthehallsofpowerarewillingtoaowledgethepoweroflove.NotAdam.Inthisdelicateandsensiblebook,weseeanecessarydialectiuneasypartnershipofpowerandlovethatisessentialtosolvingtheproblemsweface."

    -JayOgilvy,Dean,PresidioGraduateSchool,andcofounder,GlobalBusinesswork

    "Thisisaremarkablebook.Kahanefuseshisrealexperiendearnedwisdomintoaclearhroughwhichsocialgepractitionersandtheoristsbetterseehowexpressions-andshadows-ofloveandpowershapetheoutesoftheireffortstosolveplexsocialproblems."

    -RossM,President,Tidesada

    "Fromclimatedisruptiohcare,frompovertytowar,therangeofseeminglyintractablecriseswefacetodayisenoughtocausedespairihemosthopeful.YetthesearethekindsofproblemsthatAdamKahanehasgrappledwitharoundtheworld.InPowerandLove,Kahaheseexperieoexplorewhysuccessinthefaplexchallengesrequiresnotjustanewuandingoftheproblemsbutanewuandingofourselves."

    -JamaisCascio,cofounder,

    "AdamKahanehasminedmorethantwodecadesofpracticetocreateabrave,cise,pellingrefleaboutthemistakeshehasmade,thelessonshehaslearned,andthehard-earheorythatnowguideshiswork.PowerandLovehasahumilitythatisbeingahatisinspiring."

    -Katherion,President,MonitorInstitute

    "Araordinarilyinsightfundpowerfunalysisofwhatittakestoleadgeandtomakeadifferensociety.Drawingonhisownexperiencesaroundtheworld,Kahaneuseshisskillsofacuteobservationandhoself-refletofigureouthowtoeffectdeepandstingsocialge-startingwithoneself."

    -FieldsWicker-Miurin,cofounder,Leaders'Quest

    "Bringing'power'and'love'togetherinresolviintractablesocialproblemsisnotonlyunusual,itmayalsoseemunreal.AdamKahanemakesitradicallymandatory."

    -NjabuloNdebele,formerVice-cellor,UyofCapeTown,andauthorofFineLinesfromtheBox

    "AdamKahaneisageagentofthefirstorder.Hisweleandtimelybookwillhelpreadersrefodstreheiritmentandabilitytoeffectmueededunityandsocietalge."

    -MariFitzduff,ProfessorandDireastersProgramiendflict,BrandeisUy

    "Thisbookiswrittenwithgreatinsightandrevealinghoy.Adamisawonderfulstoryteller,groundshisthinkingiy,andinthisbookgivesusapathtomakingastingdiffereheworld."

    -PeterBlock,authorofStewardship,TheAoHowIsYes,andunity

    "PowerandLoveshouldbereadandrereadbyanyoneseriouslyittedtoaddressingtoughproblems."

    -MorrisRosenberg,DeputyMinisterofHealth,Goverofada

    "Atimelybookthattainsclearlessonsabouthow,why,andwhensystemic,participatory,andgeiveinterventions,aimedatshapiure,workorfail."

    -AngeWilkinson,DirectorofSarioPnningandFuturesResearstituteforSnovation,andSociety,UyofOxford

    "Effectiveandsustainablerespooglobalhealthchallengesrequirebusiness,gover,andcivilsocietytetherinpartnership-butsuchpartnershipsdonoteasilydeliverinoutes.Kahahoughtfundgroundedreflesonhisownexperiencesofsuccessandfailureshowustheway."

    -PaulusM.Verschuren,SeniorDirectlobalHealthPartnerships,Unilever

    "Asleadersintheprivate,publidsocialsectors,weallstruggletonavigatetensions.AdamKahanepointsoutthattheporityofpowerversusloveunderpinsthemall.Aslongasroachthisporitywithaher-or'filter,wewillremainstulywhenweembraceitasan'and'webreathelifeintoge.Kahaneshowsushowtoembodythis'and'andsotoleadeffectivelyandgracefully."

    -ZaferAchi,ManagingDireiddleEast,Msey&pany

    "Iionalflictisonlyuoodbygoverhroughthelensofrealpolitik.Thelimitationsofsuchastrategialysisofpoweristhatitdoesnhepowerofhumanmotivation.AdamKahane'swiseandinsightfulbookaddressesthisbyiingtheceptsofloveandpower."

    -GabrielleRifkind,Director,HumanSecurityintheMiddleEastProgramme,OxfordResearchGroup

    "Kahaneaddressestheoften-edocreatealternativesocialstructuresinsituationswherepower,petition,andself-itinueevenafterdeeplyentrencheddisputeshavebeeled'throughflictresolutionaiation.Reflectiveandpractical:amust-read."

    -CharlesVil-Vicio,formerNationalResearchDirector,SouthAfriTruthandReciliationission

    "Thisisnotabookaboutsimplesolutionstoplexproblems;itisthetaleofatwenty-yearpilgrimage,oneman'sceousjourotheunknown,awilliotakeoheworld'smostplexandseeminglyintractableproblems,atthesametimewonone'sownintractability.PowerandLoveistheantidotetnation;itisaboutthehopeandpossibilitythatesfromittingoomakingadiffereheworld."

    -BarryOshry,authorofSeeingSystemsandLeadingSystems

    "InthefourdecadessiinLutherKing'sdeath,geagentsacrosstheworldhavesoughttogroundthemselvesinhispowerfundlovingpractice.AdamKahane'sbookisajourneyandaroadmaptothatpractice."

    -MichelGelobter,CEO,Cooler,andformerPresident,RedefiningProgress

    "Adam'sceousexplorationofhisstrugglewiththeparadoxesofpowerandloveinvitesusintoourownexplorationofthiscrucialtension.Ourcapacitytodealwithhestsocialchallenges-evenoursurvivasaspecies-dependsonourlearningtoworkskillfullywiththesetwofualdrives."

    -PhilCass,CEO,busMedicalAssociation

    "Basedonhisfirsthandexperienceswwithleaders-fromacrosssectors,anizations,andunities,aroundtheworld-whoaredealingwithtoughproblems,Kahane'sbeautifullywrittenbookoffersajewelofwisdomtothosewhowanttoeffectprofoundsocialge:learntospeakboththenguageofpowerandthenguageoflove."

    -ElenaDíezPinto,ExecutiveDirector,SorosFoundation-Guatema,andformerExecutiveDirector,VisiónGuatema

    "Thisthought-provokingbookwillhelpleadersofsocialgeeffortsuaketheirchallengingworkmorepositivelyandpowerfully."

    -BobHead,CEO,Skandia

    "PowerandLoveexpandsandrefiheanalysisofSolvingToughProblems.Arenownedpractitiohedelicateartofveningdiverseandoftenwarringstakeholderstosolveintractableproblemstogether,Kahanehasageniusforextragfualinsightsandprinciplesfromplexexperiehissmallbookwillstimutefreshthinkingbyresearchers,practitioners,andpolicymakerseverywherewhoareedwithcatalyzingsustainablesocialge."

    -L.DavidBrown,SeniorResearchFellow,HauserterforNonprofitanizations,HarvardUy

    "Powerpushes,lovepulls.AdamKahaneuandsthesetwofualforceslikefewhands-onpractitionersofflictresolution.PowerandLoveisthatrarejewel-amanuandaso."

    -RobertFuller,authorofDignityforAll,AllRise,andSomebodiesandNobodies

    "PowerandLoveoutlinesAdam'suniqueapproachtosolvingproblems,whiablespeopletomakeseheirworld-past,present,andfuture-sothattheymakeitbetter."

    -PaulHanratty,CEO,Long-TermSavings,OldMutualplc

    "AdamKahaakessystemsthinkiosystemsdoiellsusstoriesofhowseparatedpartsarebrought-lovingly-intthepurposesofthewholeofthesocialorder.Kahanewalkshistalk.Heisaprincipledpragmatist."

    -BoEkman,FounderandChairman,T?llbergFoundation

    "Powerwithoutloveotsustainthelong-term,coordinatedeffortnecessarytoachievesocialge;lovewithoutpowerotovereentreerests.Kahaoriesandhiswiseselshoeworkwiththeseapparentoppositestocreatenewworlds."

    -BettySueFlowers,coauthorofPresendformerDirector,LyndonBainesJohnsonLibraryandMuseum

    "Adam'sbookisanimportanttributiontoouruandingofhowtoco-createnewsocialrealities."

    -OttoScharmer,ChairofthePresengInstituteandauthorofTheoryU

    PraiseforSolvingToughProblems

    "Thisbreakthroughbookaddressesthetralchallengeofourtime:findingawaytethertosolvetheproblemswehavecreated."

    -NelsonMande

    "Aseminalbook.Exg,vital,essentialreading."

    -EdgarH.S,ProfessorofMaEmeritus,MassachusettsInstituteofTeologySloanSa,andauthorofProcesssultationandHelping

    "Oursocietiesfacereallyhardproblems-poverty,injustice,sustainability,corruption-thatareinsolublebyventionalmeans.flictsofiandprofounduaintiesaboutthefutureareprodugparalysisandina.AdamKahanehas,morethananyone,developedandsuccessfullyemployedtoolsthateocreatefuturesofsharedprogressandprofit."

    -PeterSchwartz,Chairman,GlobalBusinesswork,andauthorofTheArtoftheLongView

    "Highlyrelevanttotheglobalchallengeswefacetoday."

    -DebraDunn,SeniorVicePresidet-Packard

    "Thisbookshouldbereadbyeveryonewhoisedwiththequalityofdeakinginourdemocracies."

    -ElenaMartinez,Assistaary-General,Uions